Look the Mistakes Newlyweds Make

Rushing into having children

Some couples don’t give themselves enough time to be married to each other. If you can wait to have children, you should consider it because you’ll never have this time alone again. Once children arrive, they will have to be the focus of your attention. Your heart certainly has room for children and a spouse, but you should spoil one another while you can.

Going into debt

Starting off your marriage with bills you can’t afford is a terrible beginning. It’s an additional strain on your relationship that you can't afford. If you are already in debt, make a plan for getting rid of it. Stay on budget, get your finances in order, and you’ll probably fight less. If nothing else, you’ll sleep better at night.

Having unrealistic expectations about marriage

If you think marriage is always a walk in the park, you have another thing coming. There will be hard times. It takes a while to get the hang of living with this other person and making the relationship work. Don’t think that the problems you had before you walked down the aisle are simply going to disappear because you’re married. They won’t. Some problems never will go away. It’s how you deal with them that counts.

Letting resentment build

Never let things fester. If something is really bothering you, say so. If you find you’re the only one doing things around the house and that upsets you, don’t do it anymore. The worst thing you can do is allow resentment for your spouse to build inside you. It tears apart your love.

Being insensitive to your spouse’s feelings

We’re all different. We all react differently to various situations. In time, you will learn to anticipate some of your spouse’s reactions. Don’t make light of them. Don’t judge them. Simply accept them and do what you can to comfort your spouse in the way that he or she needs to be comforted.

Making decisions without consulting your spouse

There are two people in your relationship. When you were single you might have made decisions about where to go after work, what vacations to take, how to spend your money, without discussing it with anyone. Now, however, your decisions have an impact on your spouse, too. He or she has a right to have input in these decisions.

Being intolerant of your spouse’s quirks or differences

When you marry someone, you are accepting him or her warts and all. It’s not fair – nor is it worth the time and energy – to get angry about things like your spouse’s slight lisp or his Republican leanings.

Taking your partner for granted

Remembering all the reasons you love your spouse and appreciating the little things he or she does for you and your family takes some work. But it’s an integral part of building a strong marriage. Once you start to forget or simply expect your spouse to do certain things for you, he or she may feel unappreciated and you could start having problems.

Abandoning your sex life

Marriage does not have to mean the end to good sex. It is part of your job as married people to maintain your sexual health, keep things interesting, and make sure you and your spouse are satisfied. When problems do arise, you should address them and do what you can to improve the situation.

By Francesca Di Meglio