Bridesmaid Advice

A bridesmaid is first and foremost someone who the bride wants to be a part of her wedding. Perhaps she is a sister, or a very close friend; her friendship and support of the marriage is meaningful. 

More than that, a bridesmaid and/or maid-of-honor serves a practical purpose. During the hectic time of planning a wedding, she is a confidant, advice giver, doer of menial tasks, errand runner and more. A bride should have at least one bridesmaid (preferably the maid-of-honor) who is reliable, cheerfully helpful, organized, and who lives close to the bride. 

A bridesmaid's duties might include:

• helping the bride shop for her dress and bridesmaids’ dresses
• when asked, giving advice on decorations, favors, music, and more
• helping the maid of honor to plan a bridal shower, and, if appropriate, chipping in for the costs of food, decorations, or venue
• helping to plan a bachelorette party (this the bridesmaids may pay for or split the cost with the other attendees)
• helping the bride dress (and stay calm) before the ceremony
• providing moral support at all times
• telling others where the couple is registered and other details, such as when they will return from their honeymoon, where to send gifts, and any name changes.
• being useful at the wedding reception. The couple may ask you to help direct guests to the guestbook, assist with a special moment, make sure that vendors have arrived, or do crisis management. You might also want to stick around after the reception and make sure things are cleaned up and wedding presents secured.
• being social. Be sure to talk to as many guests as you can, making them feel warmly welcomed. If there's a dance floor, help get the party going!
• consider throwing (or helping to pitch in for) a day-after brunch. These events are great to help the couple catch up with out-of-town guests, and have a more relaxed environment to socialize in.

A good bridesmaid also makes sure she is helpful rather than a hindrance. This means being where she needs to be, on time, ordering her bridesmaid dress at the right time, and not badmouthing the bride behind her back. 

http://weddings.about.com/cs/weddingparty/a/bridesmaid.htm

By Nina Callaway,

http://www.ehow.com/list_6589760_chief-bridesmaid-duties.html